My husband and I took our four-year-old daughter to Disney (twice) and we left our two-year-old daughter at home. Well not really at home… She had a lovely sleepover at her grandparent’s house, but point being, she didn’t join us. Let me explain why.
We choose to spend individual time with our children.
We have one child who wanted to attend the special holiday themed party at Disney – that starts at 7:00 p.m. We have another child who goes to bed close to 7:00 p.m., maybe 8:00 p.m. pushing it.
We knew the little one would be exhausted once the party started and would just want to sleep, preferably in her bed. We also knew that the older one could hang much later – and she did until midnight. There was no way to make everyone happy.
My husband and I decided that we wanted our daughter’s first Disney experience to be epic. So instead of making accommodations to make everyone happy, we decided to only take our oldest and capitalize on this time to get to know one of our children even better. We used this one-on-one time to show our child that we care, and to make sure that she (individually) feels important.
We want our children to feel both connected to the family as a whole, but also to each of us (their parents) in their own way. When we take time to spend one-on-one time with our child and give them 100% of our attention, we are creating special times only between us and that child.
One-on-one time with our children — all of them — keeps our unique relationship with each one healthy and in tune. While family time is great, it’s important that each child has a chance to bond with us and discover their own unique interests – and share them with us!
Allowing our children to have one-on-one time with us gives them the opportunity to share and communicate without competition or interruption. It helps keep bonds close and allows us to understand the changes in their interests and development.
While there is great value in togetherness as a family, there’s also something special that happens when a parent gets laser focused on an individual child and their specific needs and interests. Do your kids have different likes and dislikes, and different strengths and weaknesses? Mine sure do.
Kids naturally love their parents, and what kid doesn’t love getting all of their parent’s affection and attention all to themselves, without having to share it with anyone else? Children are craving for our personal attention. Our kids eat up the individual time we give to them, and hopefully, those times we’ve invested directly into them may very well become some of their fondest memories in their adulthood.
We all have great family memories, but how many of those are from times you shared with just your parents and no one else? Family memories are important, but individual memories that we share create something extra special.
And just so everyone knows, the little one is going to Seaworld for her alone time next week.
Just because we do some activities separate doesn’t mean we do everything separate, check out our 6 Tips For Hosting A Joint Sibling Birthday Party.
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